Att nappa eller inte
Have you chosen to give pacifier to your children? To Lilleman we had no choice. The very first day when he was on the neonatal unit, a nurse came and put a pacifier in his mouth. It was not even his own pacifier, but one that the hospital had. Right there and then, I was very annoyed because I had read that the pacifier could destroy breast-feeding. That is if the baby get a pacifier before breastfeeding is working well. Lilleman was born five weeks early and throughout his first week of life, I set the clock on every three hours, around the clock, for him to eat. And when he was done eating, I started pumping to help the milk along. Can you understand that I was not really pleased that he got a pacifier in his mouth before we had changed his first diaper?
So when Spralice was born I wanted to do completely the opposite. One of the reasons was precisely because Lilleman got the pacifier so early and I wanted to at least try to see how long we could survive without giving her the pacifier and just give her proximity instead. Another reason was that since Lilleman still have the pacifier now that he is almost 4 years old and it felt great not to have to take the fight with Spralice when she will have to give up the pacifier.
Intense use of the pacifier can lead to that the child needs braces later in life and the speech development can be made more difficult (read more here). Then there are also practical disadvantages. It can be a disaster if you are away and forget the pacifier or as it is for us, the pacifier stays in the baby's mouth for years to come. Allowing the child to use the thumb would many times be much easier as the child can easily find the thumb herself in the middle of the night, which means that parents will probably sleep better.
But did you know that there are advantages to the baby using a pacifier? The risk of SIDS is reduced if the child uses a pacifier when she sleeps and thus regularly swallow mucus which otherwise can cause the breathing to stop. It may also be easier for the child to both fall asleep and stay asleep with the pacifier. For nursing mothers, it can also be nice that someone else can comfort the baby by rocking and giving the pacifier allowing the mother to be alone for a while and rest or take a nice long shower.
Being a parent is sometimes hard enough and you often need to use every trick you can think of to get a child contented. Giving a pacifier can be seen as a very simple tool in these cases, but there are many children who rejects the pacifier outright. In our family, and for our children, the pacifier have worked excellently. Spralice learned to take it when we put a blanket over her eyes, while we held the pacifier in her mouth for a while until she learned how to suck on it. Lilleman needed no help to learn and we have now come to the point where it's time to stop using the pacifier. Do you have tips on this? Please share if you do!