Samsovning - Rätt eller fel?
Co-sleeping is a topic that is discussed on a regulary basis. Should you co-sleep or not? Increases the risk of sudden infant death by co-sleeping? Will my child sleep better in his or her own bed? But above all, will I sleep better if the baby is sleeping in her own bed?
When Lilleman was born, it was dificult to get him to fall asleep in his bed. He always slept in his babynest and we could easily move the nest from the couch to the bed or the stroller. We kept the nest at the top of our bed and moved our pillows down a bit so that he got his own little space. He also had his own blanket because the doctor recomended it. Okay, maybe I was not completely honest before. It is true that it was difficult to get him to fall asleep in his crib. But the fact is that I didn't want him there either. I thought it was incredibly difficult to keep him so far away from me, even though it wasn't more than two foot away. But I thught that it was exhusing to have to get up every time I wanted to check that he was still breathing. I also thought that it was mentally tough not having him close. After all, he had been living in my stomach for such a long time and there was a kind of regret in me as soon as he was not close. But I remember I waking up one night to find his father having his hand over Lillemans face. So yes, co-sleeping was perhaps not optimal at all times.
When Spalice was born, we bought a bedside crib in the belief that she would sleep there. But instead of sleeping in it, we're using it as a kind of protection so that she will not fall out of our bed. For in our bed, there's four people sleeping. On one side of the bed, the kids father is sleeping. Then Lilleman is sleeping between him and me. And on my other side, Spralice is sleeping (with a bedside crib beside which I mention earlier, so that she can not fall out of the bed). Sure, it gets a bit crowded at times and it's probably not anyone who thinks that this it's optimal that our almost four year old sleeps between us in bed. But Lilleman haven't always slept with us. During approximately six months, he slept in his own bed but once when he was ill, we let him sleep with us, and after that, he could not sleep by himself.
But is co-sleeping right or wrong? There's of course no right answer. Firstly, I believe that we need to do more research on the subject to find out what relationship actually exists between co-sleeping and SIDS. And secondly, I think that every family should do what is best for them. Can we please agree on this? In our home, co-sleeping with two children workes terribly good. Everyone fits in the bed, no one is getting any feet in their face (read all too often) by someone else and no one is disturbed in their sleep by someone screaming, coughing or kicking.
How does it work in your home? Do you co-sleep or not?